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By flowergrrl (Wed Jun 28, 2006 at 02:25:19 PM EST) (all tags)
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Life is hard, looking after 2 boys alone, OK so I go visit my Mum a lot in the daytime, but its looking like she might be blind soon, which also changes my future schedules. I hope she is OK, emotionally as well as physically (ie, doesn't lose what she has left)

Me? Dylan is very very draining, and due to start school this September, and I have been dealing with the barrage of red tape and people to see in preparation. Today I had an unexpected care meeting with the school he will attend. It was a hard blow when they told me that during the time they had seen him in his pre school class (only 4 visits - to get a little ready for school) he hadn't initiated any interaction with other children, and had only responded to their presence when they physically pulled him to play with them.

ie, at the water table, he had an apron on, but apparently appeared unaware that he was getting splashed to the point of his clothes were drenched, the teacher tells me it was as if he didn't know the kids were there!

Now, I know he interacts, and even made friends at kindergarten in Austria, but I am wondering how long that took, and I remember the children who were his friends tended to be older, and "look after" him.

She did say he joined in at story time with puppets (I know he loves stories so this was no surprise, I was pleased it ran through to school too)

The plan thought upon was to gradually integrate him into the classroom, with morning attendance at first, working up to a full day during the first term.

I did walk away feeling upset, I always knew it would be hard, and normally these meetings don't break the surface of my calmness, but a surprise meeting jumped through my mind and made me cry. His life has always been a struggle, and I am tired.  I had nowhere to turn for support at that time. Normally it would be my mother, but she has her own problems right now.

On a brighter note Karl is as chirpy as ever, doing fantastically, and his cousins adore him.

meh, I still don't feel any better, I thought talking about stuff helped :<

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Ugh by Herring (4.00 / 3) #1 Wed Jun 28, 2006 at 02:35:01 PM EST
I remember the fight Mrs. H. went through to get a statement for Stepdaughter. Involved two rejections, an appeal, a psychologist (who knew SD) and an MP (suprisingly worth the letter - even if he is a Tory). LEAs do not want to give the money away. The good news though is that once you do get a statement, the schools fall over each other to get the sprog in (money).

Why the authorities feel the need to make things so fucking hard for people who are having a shitty time already is beyond me.

When my grandfather became ill, my grandmother rubbed goose-fat into his back. He went downhill quite quickly after that. - Milton Jones


because by garlic (2.00 / 0) #2 Wed Jun 28, 2006 at 03:06:04 PM EST
other assholes are more worried about letting any money fall into hands unnecessarily then helping people out.
signatures are for assholes.
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S;right by Herring (2.00 / 0) #3 Wed Jun 28, 2006 at 03:13:49 PM EST
Witness the cost of ID cards and the projected savings on benefit fraud and illegal immigrants working.

One thing I have never heard of though is someone defrauding the government so as to get extra money for their school by pretending that their child is in some way impaired.

When my grandfather became ill, my grandmother rubbed goose-fat into his back. He went downhill quite quickly after that. - Milton Jones
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I just read about this the other day by georgeha (2.00 / 0) #5 Wed Jun 28, 2006 at 03:56:14 PM EST
some parents get their kids registered as ADD somehow and get $600 USD monthly from the Feds.

Of course the bastards didn't leave any links.


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They got the money though? by Cloaked User (4.00 / 1) #6 Wed Jun 28, 2006 at 04:20:38 PM EST
Herring was saying that he's never heard of anyone defrauding the government to get extra money for a school, not for themselves (which clearly happens all the time)


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section 332 by flowergrrl (2.00 / 0) #4 Wed Jun 28, 2006 at 03:36:56 PM EST
he does already have a section 332 referral in place with a SENaPS IAP available to the school, apparently statementing doesnt occur pre-school :< (I was informed this by the Educational Psychologist he is already on the books of)

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been a while by flowergrrl (2.00 / 0) #11 Wed Jan 23, 2008 at 12:26:15 PM EST
since i looked at any of my diaries

I just re read this one and realised that I hadn't told you that we got it, he is statemented and funded and has 1 to 1 attention/teaching every morning!

Actually its only been a few weeks since the final version was in school, so I guess I am not that slow in telling you!! :P

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Excellent. by Herring (2.00 / 0) #12 Wed Jan 23, 2008 at 01:02:40 PM EST
We've found that it really does help.

When my grandfather became ill, my grandmother rubbed goose-fat into his back. He went downhill quite quickly after that. - Milton Jones
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Is Dylan slightly ausitic? by Dr Thrustgood (4.00 / 1) #7 Wed Jun 28, 2006 at 08:55:49 PM EST
From what I can recall, being able to realise that other people actually have, you know, different minds has always been an ealy catch-all for such circumstances.

Regardless, you'll be in my thoughts.





Dubowitz by flowergrrl (2.00 / 0) #8 Thu Jun 29, 2006 at 05:43:02 AM EST
Hey, I remember you! by Rogerborg (2.00 / 0) #9 Thu Jun 29, 2006 at 10:36:14 AM EST
You're that hot chick who used to hang out with codemonkey_uk.  Are you finally trading him in?  Will there be an interview process to replace him?

I know it's futile to say, but Dylan will do as well as he does, and worrying about the negatives won't change it.  If you can, just enjoy the positives.  It's actually good to hear that you've got a label on his condition, as it'll make getting the extra help that he'll need easier, and might cut down (a little) on repeated assessments.  Do you have a midwife or social worker who can find you some extra help with the youn' uns?

Well, patronising White Knight Syndrome aside, it's nice to hear from you, and I hope that things work out well for you and, uh, what's-his-name.

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Metus amatores matrum compescit, non clementia.


:o by flowergrrl (4.00 / 1) #10 Thu Jun 29, 2006 at 12:14:22 PM EST
Someone worked out they actually knew who this random person was!

Yea, I know he will do as he does, just sometimes something unexpected blows you down a mo :s

thanks for the words, made me smile.

And sorry, applications are currently closed!

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